Epsychologist's Blog

How to get rid of the depressed mood and feel happy about you.

I was thinking why some people are successful and why some people are not. I decided to analyses my own life and I found a moment when I was really successful. It was at school in the last grade. I was not learning very carefully and much…because I was lazy. Yes, it is the truth and it is important to admit it, because an admission is the first step to improve you. I remember that there was one program on the internet which could help to predict results. I really enjoy using it, but only for the subjects I know well. However once I tired other one…I think that I was acting “good” when I was not checking. The result was more than disappointing. After some time at school I wrote another test and the result was even worth. However I didn’t cried, ad I didn’t tell about it for anyone, I just straightly went to the bookshop and start learning immediately. I faced situation “now or never”. I understood that from this moment I need to learn. I had only one goal, which was so important. It is not only hard exams. The results of the exams could turn your life to the better or worth direction. It was very important. I was strict for my lazy behavior. This is the list from the action plan I made:

• I need to start learning from now!
• Not after one minute, not after the rest, not after the eating (don’t get me wrong, it is important to eat, but it can consume lots of time) and definitely not from Monday.
• I made a strict plan of the thinks I need to learn.

I won’t lie. It was not easy…actually it was very hard. I was learning the subject which I hate the most, but I understood that I have to. The first three days were the hardest. I remember the first Sunday…I woke up unusually very early and I was learning totally all day. I didn’t give me (Fortunately!) any useless break. Believe me it is totally not necessary. The perfect break is just dinner, or going to the toilet. Also I was watching TV in foreign language I was learning. I don’t know if you had such situation that weekend is gone, but you didn’t do anything useful. I remember my class friends were talking about it on Monday. However it was not my situation anymore. I was happy. I start even like it after one week and a bit. I remember that I just felt good in general. I start dreaming nice dreams. Do you want to know the result? I past all exams very good, even these two which I didn’t like so much.

I just want to say instead of using self-help books, or going to seminars, psychotherapists, we can look to our past and probably we will find moments when we was happy about ourselves. I think it is useful to analyze situation and the reasons which cause such a good opinion about us. I was happy about myself because I made a right choice between fun things now; however it is totally not useful in future and actually in the long-term they make me unhappy. My choice was to learn hard…which is not so fun in the beginning, but which make me so happy about myself. On the other hand it is not enough to choice it is important to act according your choice. I was strict about myself; however I think I wouldn’t successes without that.  I wish you good luck in your choice making!