1. We experience external events
2. We interpret them and have a self-talk
3. We get some feelings and react according situation

It is important to understand the order of this. Imagine you are sitting in the room, and outside is raining very hard. One person could feel happy about it, and understand this situation as a possibility to get some rest and relax. Other person will complain about situation, because he/she cannot go out and have fun. The situation is the same, but the way we think influence our reactions and feelings.

There are 4 types of negative thinking, which could cause these 4 problems: depression, anxiety, perfectionism and low-self esteem.

1. The victim thinking makes us depressed. If you catch yourself thinking “I can’t. I can never do it. I am too weak. I could make it 5 years ago, but not now’’. You make yourself depressed.
2. The worries promote anxiety. Let’s say you think like “What if I fail, What if they see me when I am so worried”
3. Perfectionism promotes stress and burnout “I should be the best in the class”, “I have to make the perfect presentation”
4. The critic thinking makes us feel not self-confident. Normally it is our parents’ voice inside us, or someone else who was critical to us “You are stupid. You cannot understand it. You cannot make it ”

It is possible to make an inside evaluation, and find out which of these voices are strongest. However it is important to deal with negative thinking and the best way to do it is to replace it with the positive thinking. There are some basic rules which can help:

• Avoid negatives. Instead of “I won’t be late this time” think “I will be in time” or even better just create an image in your mind that you are coming to the place in time.
• Make the sentences in the present time, not in the future. Replace “I will feel better soon” into “I feel better now”
• You are talking about yourself so it is better to make sentences with “I’’, or at least to refer to ‘’I’’.
• It is important to believe in what you are saying. Let’s say if you what to deal with you critical voice inside you. You can tell for yourself “I am OK person”. “I am worth that other people respect me”. There is no an exaggeration and it is not hard to believe in what you are telling for yourself.

Depression is a mental health disorder. I can affect your eating, sleeping habits and an opinion about yourself in such way that you will feel weak, and not willing to change situation. Depression is more than the bad mood.

What are the symptoms of the depression?

• Low self-esteem
• No interested in daily activities
• Loss of energy
• Problems with the concentration
• Changes of the weight
• Feeling hopelessness and helplessness

I decided to check in the google keyword tool bar the popularity of the word depression. I found out that every month there are 11,000,000 people who type a word “depression” in google search. I think it is very much. However I believe that it is possible to solve it without medicine. How? I think psychological therapy also using self-help. I am going to search more information about it in the near future.