Positive thinking against the pain
November 20, 2009 at 3:03 pm | Posted in Selfesteem, Selfhelp, Stress | Leave a commentHello, today I will describe my progress of boosting my self-esteem. I should say that the morning was not so good for me, and especially after the dinner I felt not good. My stomach pain makes me feel totally miserable. Probably quite much girls and woman feel in the same way on ‘’these days’’. I remember some years ago, sometimes I need to take only 2-3 pills of painkillers per year. I was not feeling extreme well; however, it was not so bad as well. Everything changed last year. Every time I had the menstruation pain. I couldn’t survive without painkillers. One time I drink even 4 pills. Normally I am trying to avoid all medicines, and really without a reason I don’t drink any pill. I noticed that the hardest days were during my exams session. It means that the menstruation pain is related with the stress. One day I read a book about the power of positive thinking. Next time, when I start feeling not well, I decided to try some techniques from the book. I didn’t have anything to lose. I describe main tips how to work with it in my post: “A power of the positive thinking or how to deal with depression, anxiety, perfectionism and low self-esteem”. I forgot to mention that positive thinking could be a good medicine against a pain.
I didn’t have an opportunity to lie or be in the calm place. I just start to think that my belly feels warm. (Normally when it feels warm it helps). The belly really got warm…then I start repeating that my belly feels good. (Important: Don’t repeat that “I don’t feel pain anymore”, because then you concentrate your attention to the word pain). I was repeating until it felt good. Then I start to repeat that I feel good in general: physically and mentally. It was the first time in during all year, when I didn’t need to drink any pill. Today, I tried the same technique and I felt better. I really hope that I won’t need medicine this time also.
How it is related with self-esteem? I think when you feel good physically you feel more self-confident. Also this example proved that a positive thinking really works, after 5 minutes I already could see a result of it.
A power of the positive thinking or how to deal with depression, anxiety, perfectionism and low self-esteem
November 18, 2009 at 11:45 am | Posted in Anxiety, Depression, Selfesteem, Selfhelp, Stress | 2 CommentsThe way we think influences our life. In order to understand better the power of positive thinking, let’s analyze the self-talk. Self-talk is the way we communicate with ourselves. How it works?
- We experience external events
- We interpret them and have a self-talk
- We get some feelings and react according situation
It is important to understand the order of this. Imagine you are sitting in the room, and outside is raining very hard. One person could feel happy about it, and understand this situation as a possibility to get some rest and relax. Other person will complain about situation, because he/she cannot go out and have fun. The situation is the same, but the way we think influence our reactions and feelings.
There are 4 types of negative thinking, which could cause these 4 problems: depression, anxiety, perfectionism and low-self esteem.
- The victim thinking makes us depressed. If you catch yourself thinking “I can’t. I can never do it. I am too weak. I could make it 5 years ago, but not now’’. You make yourself depressed.
- The worries promote anxiety. Let’s say you think like “What if I fail, What if they see me when I am so worried”
- Perfectionism promotes stress and burnout “I should be the best in the class”, “I have to make the perfect presentation”
- The critic thinking makes us feel not self-confident. Normally it is our parents’ voice inside us, or someone else who was critical to us “You are stupid. You cannot understand it. You cannot make it ”
It is possible to make an inside evaluation, and find out which of these voices are strongest. However it is important to deal with negative thinking and the best way to do it is to replace it with the positive thinking. There are some basic rules which can help:
- Avoid negatives. Instead of “I won’t be late this time” think “I will be in time” or even better just create an image in your mind that you are coming to the place in time.
- Make the sentences in the present time, not in the future. Replace “I will feel better soon” into “I feel better now”
- You are talking about yourself so it is better to make sentences with “I’’, or at least to refer to ‘’I’’.
- It is important to believe in what you are saying. Let’s say if you what to deal with you critical voice inside you. You can tell for yourself “I am OK person”. “I am worth that other people respect me”. There is no an exaggeration and it is not hard to believe in what you are telling for yourself.
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